Is it for real? Really? Are you kidding?
Spellbound, stuck in a swamp of sticky, squishy mess.
Did you just say that? Excuse me?
Eyes wide, eyelids cease to blink
Hearing turned up to its highest volume, the mouth struggling to form a word
Mouth is frozen due to the brains shock into immobility
Neurons confused, misfiring across synapsis searching for a logical explanation.
Body heavy, weighted down, like an anchor caught in a submerged fishing net.
Is it true? Can it be? Wait a moment? Can you repeat?
Expecting one thing and getting something else instead.
We have all been there
Having already imagined yourself there, living It in your imagination, making plans for That future dream.
Within seconds, which feels more like hours, your dreams take a turn and promenade off the edge of a cliff.
Looking down, aghast as you watch That dream fall to its death, and no matter what you say or do you cannot stop it.
Yes, we have all been there?
These moments etched into our memories never to be forgotten.
They are moments in time, surprise events, where expectations are dashed; shaking your head as if by doing so will change the outcome.
Uttering phrases: What could I have done differently? If only? What did I do wrong?
Disappointment careens through your system initially with such speed it throws you off your balance, eventually decelerating to a blip
You get over it, move on, and regain the new normal.
The new normal may not be what you expected, but it is another one of those life’s lessons: Life moves on… Get back on your horse… What will be will be
Once the shock wears off and your disappointment reduces to a sputter, you can now turn around and walk away from the edge of the cliff and…
Get on with living.
Recipe: Breathing through disappointment
When faced with a disappointment due to a turn events
You will automatically hold your breath; this is one of the reasons time feels like it is standing still
Holding your breath triggers the Sympathetic Nervous System, Stress Response
Fortunately, you are able to reverse this response by taking long deep breaths
It might be you step away from the person giving the news or asking for a moment
Begin taking long deep breaths through your nose and exhale out your mouth, if you can close your eyes, invite your eyes to close and follow your breath until your nervous system relaxes.
Taking the time out to follow your breath provides time to absorb the news and bring you back into your body letting the really escape.
Back to where you feel safe and secure
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