Hurrying through dinner, bedtime rituals, into bed. Then rushing awake, through breakfast, getting to work or wherever you must go quickly. Eating quickly, moving swiftly, talking hastily, listening briefly, tiring easily. Finally sitting, why not pick up your phone, rapidly sliding your finger until something interesting catches your eye. Bored now ready to move on. Getting up hurrying home or somewhere you must go, no breath, no time, no pause.
Take a pause
A moment of silence
Create moments of stillness, soothing states, to just stare, to be, no thoughts, no phone, no book, just to be.
Sit or stand, breathe in and breathe out, notice your body’s welcoming embrace as your breath enters and its liberating release as your breath leaves your body.
Feel your body breathe as a whole, your feet being touched by the breath, fingers caressed by the breath and the crown of your head tingling with the breath.
Take a pause, slow down
Take a pause into the unknown, where nothing seems to happen,
Its not dramatic, or exciting, it is just a moment in time when everything stops, thoughts, worries, concerns abate, leaving space for nothingness.
Nothingness takes getting used to; it feels boring, static, uninteresting at first, then it begins to feel ok, it may not offer the euphoric feelings you might be seeking, yet this pause is the creator of delight, when something deep inside you begins to stir.
Not a volcanic stir, but an unhurried one, almost undetectable, until you take that pause. That stir crawls up your spine at a snails pace, getting stuck in spots along the way, meandering without urgency, then it arrives, entering the thinking mind softly, tiptoeing, nudging its nose through synapses of your brain.
The stir has to pass various checkpoints, pausing at Threat, if stir gets through without Fear sabotaging it then it is almost home free, the final point is Desire.
Desire seeks excitement; it requires periodic fixes of heart pumping, enthusiastic occurrences, things to look forward to… things to do, a quiet stir may not be convincing enough to pass through Desire.
If it gets through this final checkpoint, chances are it snuck through without being seen, as Desire is strong and powerful. Desire despises the being state, it pushes against tranquility, it dares to destroy it by hurling anger and frustration until that delicate stir retreats.
You might perceive stir as lazy and unkempt, though stir is the very thing that is missing in all human’s lives, that moment of stillness and tranquility, although subtle in nature is the answer to life’s problems and the world’s frantic compulsion to be doing all the time.
The more you pause, the greater the chance that the state of being will regain its position amongst Threat and Desire, forming equal partnerships.
Take a pause; pause not just once, not twice, but multiple times a day.
Recipe: 5 Pauses a Day Exercise
Take 5 pauses a day
Meditate 5 – 10 mins
4 deep breaths
Eat without distraction, no TV, book, computer, phone, thinking or other person
Sit with a hot cup of something drink without distractions
Take a bath
Shower without planning the day, just shower
Walk mindfully, slow down
Listen to soothing music without doing anything else
Read a book
Stare into space for a few minutes
Close your eyes and rest
Float in the ocean or a pool
Lay on the grass, look at the sky
Watch the stars
Hug your lover without sex on your mind
Create your own moments of pause